>How can you criticise somebody constructively to make sure that they
>(1) WILL do as you ask in the future? The (2) ODDS are that yelling
>at them is never going to work while constant complaining, on the
>other hand , (3) MAY very (4) WELL sound like a victim-like,
>poor-me moan that gives no incentive for change. Of course, if you do
>feel (5) INCLINED to have a go at someone, go ahead, but it is rarely
>productive. Not only is it more or less (6) LIKELY to end in a row or a
>sulk, there's also the (7) REAL possibility it (8) WOULD be ignored.
>Constructive criticism really (9) HAS to be adult, rational and
>reasonable. No wonder so many of us struggle with it: there's no
>(10) DOUBT it's much easier being unreasonable. But even if you
>(11) DO manage to give constructive criticism like an adult, it
>(12) DOESN'T mean the recipient will feel under any (13) OBLIGATION to take
>it in the same way. In all (14) PROBABILITY you will be met by hurt eyes,
>slumped shoulders and a sad face, and you (15) MIGHT as well get used
>to the fact.